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While I will not be able to teach you everything that there is to know about this fine art. I will do my best to give you some basic understanding and get you started on your journey. In this first lesson we are going to talk a little about what body language is and how you can learn to quickly recognize the signs and signals that people are sending you. Body language can truly speak louder than words. Different body parts like; eyes, hands, arms and legs can be used in different ways, with each one having several meanings. It is a very powerful method of communication that most of us use without even realizing we are using it. Understanding the art of body language and being able to identify the different body signals people are using is a great skill to have! Even without the use of words, you can effectively send your message to another person, and that person to you. By learning how to understand body language you can quickly identify and determine their moods, emotions, feelings, and desires. This will give you the ability to control almost any situation by knowing how to react to it in advance. For instance, most of the time the use of direct eye contact indicates interest, positive thinking, and sincerity. However, it could also mean: mistrust, doubt, and suspicion. Lateral eye movements may mean the person is lying, or inspecting his surroundings making sure no one or everyone is listening. Often when some one is trying to recall or imagine something, they will look upward. On the other hand looking down may indicate submission to an authority or guilt. Did you know that your hand and arm gestures can also display different meanings? Besides the obvious ones that we see people use everyday, like waving, pointing or others that we won't discuss in this lesson. Let's go over a few: If someone talks with their palms facing upwards, they are showing sincerity. If someone talks with their fist clenched it is a sign of anger or hostility. If you encounter somebody who taps or drums their fingers on a surface, they are showing feelings of nervousness or anxiety. Arms crossed across the chest is a display of defense and protection from an outside source, or may simply indicate that they disagree with what is being said. Now lets talk about a type of body language that we all like and that is the language of love! We naturally use our bodies when we are looking for a little romance, and flirting is one of the best examples of body language that I can think of! Body language can help you show someone that you like him or her, and likewise, you can determine if somebody is attracted to you. The most basic and first sign of attraction is the smile. The wider the smile, the more he or she is into you. Let's say you are in opposite corners of a room and you see someone who interests you. You can use your eyes to send an invitation with a lingering, soft look or by giving a quick look and suddenly looking away, and then back to eye contact again. This is a form of flirting and definite sign of interest that many of us use without even thinking. Looking from the eyes down to the lips and back to the eyes again also indicates possible romance. Other gestures can also be signs of attraction, like if the person is facing you directly or leaning towards you. Of course body language can also let you know if that someone is not interested. A hard look or glare can say “back off” louder than saying the actual words. Other signs of disinterest are looking away, keeping the mouth shut tight, turning the body away, staring at people other than you, crossing the arms, and moving away are just some of the clues that he or she is not interested in having a romantic encounter with you. Body language isn't all about love it can also help you detect lies! You don't need to launch a full scale investigation to determine if somebody is being dishonest with you. All you need is some basic understanding in the art of body language to spot a liar. The simplest way to detect lies is to simply look for signs of discomfort, anxiety, and nervousness. The inability to look directly into your eyes, fidgeting fingers, shuffling feet, sudden crossing of the arms or legs, glancing around the room, and forced smiles are the most common clues that someone is lying to you. Often the volume of a persons voice will become softer than usual when lying, but during a defensive state of mind, they will usually raise their voice. You may also notice speech errors, such as mispronunciation, stuttering, stammering or that they talk faster than normal. Now, I don't want to you get paranoid that everyone is lying to you just because they don't look at you or because they happen to cross their arms when you are talking to them. I also don't want you to assume that everyone who looks at you across a room is ready for romance! The meanings and interpretations of body language are not always true and definitive. Body language involves many gestures and movements that all have to be considered when you are attempting to determine someone's inner feelings and emotions and we will be talking more about that in the next lesson. Until then be careful when interpreting other people's body language and don't be too quick to jump to conclusions! Thank you again for joining. See you tomorrow, "your name here" "your email address" "your URL here" ---------------------------------------------------------------- 2 subject line: Second Lesson - Body Language Basics Hello "autoresponder code here", It’s time for your second lesson. As promised in this lesson we are going to talk more about the different types of gestures and body movements that people use to communicate, so that you can you can learn to interpret them better. Consciously or unconsciously, as humans we all send and receive messages through body language. It is virtually impossible for us to not to use our bodies when we interact with each other. There are several gestures that people use in different specific situations. For instance; at work, during a job interview, a dinner date, or even in a casual conversation. The eyes, arms, and hands are the body parts most frequently used to communicate, even unconsciously. Eye contact is the strongest form of body language that we use. As small as they are the eyes carry big meanings and indications behind them. With your eyes you can let someone know that you are interested, sincere, and attentive. As we discussed in the first lesson the lack of eye contact and inability to prolong it may mean that a person is lying, hiding something, or that they are becoming bored or uninterested. Did you know that our eyes naturally perform scans when we see something new? This is especially true when we meet a new person. We use our eyes to check out the appearance of another by looking first, in the eyes, then down and back up to the eyes again. This is a typical response when people first meet. It allows us to gain our first impression of someone new and we do it automatically. Your eyes can easily express different feelings that you are having. They can also help you determine what someone else is feeling and what their current state of mind is. But you have to be careful not to misinterpret what people are saying to you. For instance, the act of winking can be a signal of agreement or a sign of flirtation. While glancing often means a moment of desire. On the other hand if a persons eyes widen quickly, it is a signal of shock, surprise, or disbelief. When someone squints at what you are saying, it can mean that they are analyzing what you have to say or that they are trying to determine weather or not you are telling the truth. These our just a few of the things that the eyes can tell us. Our eyes can clearly express what we feel or desire at any time and the ability to understand what people are telling you with their eyes can help you in more ways than one. Now let's talk about what our arms have to do with our communications skills. Did you know that standing or sitting with arms crossed across the chest is one of the most powerful and basic gestures used by everyone? People can literally form a barrier between themselves and another person just by crossing their arms. When you are talking to someone and they cross their arms, most of the time it means that they oppose, suspect, or doubt what you are saying. But, if they are talking to you with their arms crossed, it could mean that they are nervous, lying, or hiding something from you. On the other hand it may simply mean that he or she feels cold! This body language thing can be tricky! That is why it's important to consider all of the postures, movements and gestures when you are trying to read someone else's body language. Along with our arms, our hands also have a lot to say. In lesson one we briefly talked about open palms and that if some one talks to you with their palms facing up they are often expressing sincerity and honesty. This can also mean that they are comfortable with you and that they are interested in what you have to say. On the other hand (no pun intended) a clenched fist is a very clear indication of frustration, anger, resistance, and defense. But there are times where a clenched fist could indicate that they have confidence in their idea or opinion. I told you this stuff is tricky! Did your mother ever tell you to get your hands out of your pockets when you were little? That's because the pockets are never the right place to put your hands. Especially when you are engaged in a conversation with another person. If you are speaking to a person with his hands in his pockets it may indicate that he is nervous, uncomfortable, bored, or uninterested. This gesture can also indicate that he may be hiding something from you or that he doesn't want to engage in a specific activity or task. Our hands can make several gestures, each with a difference in meaning. We can express just about anything through them. For instance if you want to let another person know that you are interested in them or in the conversation, your hands can emphasize that for you. If you want to let someone know that you aren't interested your hands can express that for you too. Weather we know it or not we all use our eyes, arms, hands legs, head, and our body posture to communicate with each other. That is why learning how to read body language is such an important skill to have. We are all born with a basic instinct when it comes to body language interpretation, but just like anything else in life we have to hone that skill. Because a persons actions definitely have more honesty compared to the words coming out from his mouth. Look for your next lesson soon! We will be going over some quick tips that you can use to further hone your body language skills along with some ways that you can use your new skill to your advantage. Until then practice observing the ways that other people use their bodies to communicate. Just don't jump to any conclusions that will get you in to trouble and remember I cannot be held responsible for misinterpretations ;) "your name here" "your email address" "your URL here" ---------------------------------------------------------------- 3 subject line: Third Lesson - Body Language Basics Hi "autoresponder code here", Well, it's time for your third lesson in the "Body Language Basics" crash course and today we are going to go over some great tips that you can use to hone your body language skills and use them to your advantage. Studying and learning how to understand body language can give you three distinct advantages: 1. The ability to control almost any situation 2. Knowing what others are thinking and intend to say, before they say it. 3. Being able to express yourself without the use of words. As you well know by now, with body language we can impress other people, detect lying, and even know if somebody is flirting with us. Today we are going to talk a little more in depth about the different types of gestures that people usually use in certain situations. We are also going to talk about body gestures and movements that you should avoid using so that you don't send out the wrong signals. Let's start off by talking about how you can use your body language to make a good impression. For instance, by using your body to send the proper signals you can impress your boss, an interviewer, co-worker, and other people. You can show them that you are confident through your actions, such as handshakes, posture, proper use of eye contact, and hand movements. Here are some quick tips that you can use to impress: - When shaking hands, make sure it is firm and that your palm comes in contact with the palm of the other person. - Make an eye contact for about two to three seconds and smile slightly. - Maintain a good posture. - When standing up, refrain from putting your hands in your pockets or crossing your arms. - When you are sitting down, don't sit near the edge with your back tensely straight. This indicates that you are very nervous. Be careful not slouch. Simply relax into the chair without tightening your back muscles. To make a good impression you will also maintain eye contact throughout the conversation. This will let the other person that you are interested and attentive to what they are saying. If you are having a hard time keeping eye contact, the trick is to try and focus on the bridge of the nose of the person to are talking to. Preferably without staring, which will have the opposite effect. You may use subtle hand movements when talking. This helps give the person you the impression that you really know what you are talking about. The next time you are trying to impress someone just keep in mind that your confidence and comfort is reflected from your body language. By maintaining good posture, eye contact and using relaxed hand gestures and body movements you will be sure to make a good impression. Now let's talk about some of the signals you should avoid sending, so that you don't make the wrong impression. These are negative signs that you should start avoiding when ever you are interacting with somebody: - Looking at your watch or the closest clock. - Picking or chewing on your fingernails. - Crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pockets. - Holding objects in front of you. - Stroking your chin, squinting or forcing a smile. - Placing your hands on your hips. - Rubbing the nape of your neck. Slouching, drumming your fingers, tapping your feet, and any other irritating gesture that sends the signal that you have no interest in what the other person has to say. This is a sure way to leave a bad impression and we don't want that! Body language can truly send signals of emotions and state of mind. You only need to learn how to understand the way that people act in order to determine what is really going on in their minds. That is the art of learning the secrets behind body language. I hope that you have enjoyed this lesson and that you have been practicing reading other people's body language and making a good habit of controlling your own! Look for your next lesson soon. We will be talking more about the gestures and movements that people use to communicate, so you can quickly recognize their meanings. Take care, and I'll talk to you soon! "your name here" "your email address" "your URL here" --------------------------------------------------------------------- 4 subject line: Fourth Lesson - Body Language Basics Hello "autoresponder code here", In the last issue we talked about honing your body language skills and using them to your advantage. In this lesson let's talk more about the gestures and movements that people use to communicate, because being able to recognize them is an essential part of being able to read and use this art to your advantage. As we well know, listening only to the words that the another person is saying is not always enough. His or her body language can always help you tell if that person is being honest, sincere and even what they are feeling deep inside. As we also know body language entails the gestures and movements involving the body, from head to toe and each signal of body language that a person uses may have different meanings, depending on the situation in which it was delivered. Let's start off with head gestures. With our head we can signal yes or no simply by the movement we choose to use. Nodding up and down usually means “yes” or “I agree” right? It's basic. We learn that as tiny children. But, did you know that in other countries such as Yugoslavia, India, Bolivia and Turkey, it sometimes means “no”. and in parts of Asia it can mean the inability to understand you. Something to think about just in case you find yourself in a place where you don't understand the spoken word! Nodding your head occasionally while a person is talking to you will show them that you are interested and focused on them. Whether you are selling, persuading, flirting or listening to someone it will give you the power to make that person like you and trust you more! Just keep in mind that nodding is a strong signal and if you use it to seduce men, women, or to influence others while you are talking to them it has the ability to reinforce what the OTHER person has in mind. It doesn't necessarily mean that they are agreeing with what you are saying. Tricky, I know! If you see someone holding their head level it is often a show of self assurance, confidence and authority. Have you ever heard that old phrase "walk with your head held high"? Now you know why. When they are tilting their head to the side or backwards it indicates that the person is thinking deeply, considering a thought or paying attention to what you have to say. If you are asking them a question, then chances are that they are thinking of the best answer to respond with. When they are shaking their head back and forth it means no for most of us and it is a sign of disagreement in most countries as well. But again, it is important to be aware of cultural differences. Just like with nodding your head up and down in some countries shaking it back and forth means YES! Now let's move on to facial expressions. They are the most obvious and visible signs of how someone is truly feeling, however there are some people who have mastered the art of controlling their facial expressions. For instance, professional poker players. They are very hard to read because they can make themselves appear virtually expressionless when they need too! That is where the eyes come in. Even with an inexpressive face, it's hard to miss what is being expressed through the eyes. As we talked about in lesson two, eye contact is the strongest form of body language. The eyes can speak volumes given any circumstance. Eye contact is a strong indication of focus of attention, interest, attraction, and honesty. We also learned from lesson that you can spot somebody lying to you if they can't hold eye contact with you for a period of time and that if they look away, it signifies a lack of interest, dishonesty, or boredom. On the other hand there are times when looking away signifies attraction or simply a slight distraction. Now let's not forget that there are other features on our faces that send out signals as well. Did you know that touching or rubbing of the nose is one of the most common self-touching gestures? If you catch someone touching or rubbing their nose it can simply indicate that they have detected a bad smell or that they have allergies. But more often than not it is done by people who are lying or trying to hide something. You see, when most people lie the blood vessels in their nose dilate, making the nose swell, appear redder, or even tingle. Which often leads to them touching or scratching their nose. Here are a few more nose moves you can learn: - Rubbing the finger alongside the nose can indicate disagreement. - Pinching the bridge of the nose can mean the person is evaluating something, usually negatively. - Flared nostrils are a sign of anger and indicate the person is experiencing extreme displeasure. - Sniffing can indicate displeasure, disgust or the common cold. - A wrinkled nose can happen when a bad smell is detected or even thought about and is often mixed with a little rub, scratch or sniff. It can also happen when the person is thinking about something distasteful to them. And just so you know, blowing your nose in front of others is a gesture seen as rude by most countries, but it is considered a sign of good health in some parts in Asia, so be careful! Moving on, let's talk about the mouth. More importantly the smile and lips not the words that come out of it. Most of the time smiling indicates pleasure. It implies that the person is happy, enjoying another person's company or they are amused by something in particular, like a joke or funny story. Let's go over the anatomy of a smile. A full smile engages the whole face, particularly including the eyes, which often twinkle, accompanied by a warm glow that warms the skin on your face. This is caused by the excitement or joy you are feeling at the time, which causes the blood to rush to your head. Much in the same way someone's nose turns red when they are lying. Smiling with lips only is often what is referred to as a false smile. This happens when someone wants to convey pleasure or approval, but is actually feeling something else. False smiles tend to last longer. Lowering the jaw to show a D-shaped mouth can be a false smile as it is easy to do. It may also be a deliberate signal of amusement and an invitation to laugh. Smiling without opening the mouth, and particularly with lips firmly pressed together, may indicate embarrassment about unsightly teeth. It may also be an attempt to suppress a comment that has come to mind, but may be better left unsaid. Here are some more cues to look for: - A half-smile, on one side of the face, may indicate cynicism, sarcasm or uncertainty. - Smiling is also a sign of submission as the person effectively says 'I am nice and not a threat'. - Smiling in some cultures indicates a question or that you want the other person to speak. - A genuine smile, indicating honesty and openness to communication - Someone covering the mouth or parts of the face while you are talking to them means that the person you are talking to could be surprised by what you said. - If they are talking to you they could be lying or uncomfortable with the conversation - If a person's lips are puckered it could mean that they tasted something sour or they are recalling a similar feeling. It can Faso convey sexual interest. - Pursed lips mean worry or disapproval. - Lips swished to the side when you are talking means they are listening to you carefully or thinking about what to say next. - Lip biting is often a nervous habit that shows anxiety. It can also be a sign of anger. Here is a little fun fact: Licking or biting of the lips is one of the most typical signals of flirting performed by women. Keep that in mind guys! While the ability of read someone's else's body movements is sometimes unreliable, it is still a very important skill to have. With some practice and experience you can learn how to navigate your way through the words that people are speaking and gain a deeper understanding of who they really are. As you start honing your skills, I want you to keep in mind that sometimes the gestures that people perform aren't what you think. What one person may regard as rude may just be a bad habit or cultural difference to the other person and they may have no intention of being rude. Wow, we are winding down to the end of this crash course, but we still have a few things to go over before we are finished, so make sure you look for your next lesson soon. We will be talking about when to use and when not to use certain gestures of body language, so you don't get yourself in to trouble. "your name here" "your email address" "your URL here" --------------------------------------------------------------------- 5 subject line: Fifth Lesson - Body Language Basics Hello "autoresponder code here", Welcome to the final lesson in the Body Language Basics crash course. I hope that you have learned a lot about reading the signs and signals that people are sending you over the past few lessons and that you have become more aware of how people use body language to speak more than words can say. In the last issue we talked more about the gestures and movements that people use to communicate. In this last lesson we are going to talk about when and when not to use certain gestures of body language, so you don't get yourself in to trouble. Did you know that when you meet someone for the first time, it takes that person 3 to 7 seconds to make their own judgement about you? Once that first assessment is made we adapt our feelings, posture, language, and tone. These first few seconds alone can make or break a relationship whether when influencing someone in a sales or presentation situation, or when flirting with a man or a woman... That is why it is important to know when and when not to use certain gestures of body language. Although we all naturally use our bodies to communicate, we have to keep in mind that there is an appropriate time and place for every act of body language. Most of the time, we are blissfully unaware of the messages we convey through our body gestures and movements, which means we could easily send negative signals that might offend other people without realizing that we did anything wrong. There are a few gestures that one should really avoid using, but often it require discipline and practice to change bad habits, especially if we've been unintentionally performing these negative acts in our daily lives. That is why it is very important to be observant of your own body language, as well as that of other people. As we know from our lessons, you can read other people by watching and learning how to understand the way that they act and move. But you must also be aware that there are other people who know how to interpret body language too, and somebody may already be reading you. First let's talk about body language at work. It is always a good idea to be your best at work, and using the proper body language is a big key to success. By doing so, you can impress your boss, coworkers and please clients. You may not realize this but when most of us engage in communication, only 7% of it is the words we speak and the other 93% is accounted for from our nonverbal cues. When you are in the work place it is important to be confident yet relaxed when you're facing somebody. This way other people won't regard you as overconfident and you will be better able to impress them and let them know you truly know what you are talking about. Maintaining good posture, eye contact and using appropriate hand gestures are key to building good work relationships. You will also want to make use of your hands to punctuate or emphasize what you are saying. You don't want to appear stiff, so don't keep your hands on your lap during the entire interaction. As we have discussed before, hand gestures can signify that you are honest and knowledgeable on the subject you are discussing. If you are the presenter in a meeting be sure to move around, but walk slowly during the presentation. The greatest presenters are those who can speak confidently with the right timing of body movements and gestures. You must observe the body language of your audience as well. Reading their actions, reactions and movements can let you know if you are doing well. The wrong gestures, done consciously or unconsciously, could give the wrong impression to your boss, co-workers, and clients. You will want to avoid pointing your finger at anybody, especially your boss. Even when you are angry or trying to emphasize an important fact. Just in case you don't know, it is regarded as a rude gesture. In meetings, refrain from showing signs of boredom and lack of interest. These signs include arms crossed over the chest, eyes on objects other than the person talking or the presentation itself, yawning, signing, drumming the fingers on the table, or tapping your foot. We already know from lesson three that these actions send the wrong signals. Now let's talk a little bit about using body language on a date. How can you send signals that you are attracted to them without telling them verbally how you really feel? The solution is simple! Talk with your eyes and match it with a big, bright smile. These two gestures are enough to let somebody know that you are enjoying their company. You will quickly be able to tell that the date is going well when these signals of flirtation are present: - A woman will tend to touch her hair, lick her lips, eat or drink slowly, and preen. - While, a man will usually wink, close the distance between them, lean forward, and stand tall. Bottom line is both sexes want to impress their partner by showing the masculinity or sexiness through actions. And most of the time these signs are just the beginning of a higher level in the relationship. Did you know that compared to men, women can send signals of attraction five times stronger? They naturally have more flirting habits than men and a higher percentage the signals they send are done intentionally. During the flirting process they love to preen, play with their hair by touching, twisting or tossing it over the shoulder. They tend to use their hands more as well, by touching something, such as a wine glass at dinner. Most women are quite good at the art of seduction, especially when they involve their lips. As we talked about before they bite and lick their lips more when they are attracted to someone. They also put on lipstick, maintain eye contact, raise their eyebrows, smile brightly and laugh more. Take note guy's, these are the signals that an interested woman sends! Meanwhile, men usually try to puff up and appear more masculine to show their prowess to the women they like, by giving them a full length look. They tend to stand taller, square their shoulders, and sometimes hook their thumbs into their belt for that macho aura. Ladies this is what to look for. The first signal of attraction sent by most men is making eye contact. If he glimpses at you, looks away, and then back at you again, it is a very clear indication that you've caught his attention. Sometimes, eye contact doesn't mean anything. But if it lasts longer than a few seconds then it often means something is running through his mind and you are involved. The second signal is raising an eyebrow. This isn't a very strong indication and is most of the time done unconsciously, but sometimes it means that he finds you interesting or sexy. Men also like to close the distance when they are interested in you, so they will tend to lean more towards you when they find you attractive. Often this act is done intentionally, but sometimes it's done unconsciously. They may also unconsciously touch their ties or collar, which often means they find you irresistible. The simple fact is that there are many kinds of body gestures, including the ones that we have talked about throughout this course that you will want to use and avoid using, no matter what situation you find yourself in and before we close your final lesson I want to touch on a few more of them again. Here we go: - Try and hide your anxiety or tension by avoiding fidgeting, trembling, or shaking. - Avoid excessive hand movements when talking, this could distract others from focusing on what you have to say. - Avoid excessive blinking. This shows you are uneasy and nervous. - Don't look at your watch or the clock frequently. It's rude and gives the impression that you want to end the interaction right away. - Don't stroke you chin, lean on your elbow, or fake a smile. - Don't sigh, look at people other than the one you are talking to. - Don't slouch, and prop your head on your hands. One last thing before we close. You always want to do your best to be aware of an observe cultural differences. Always keep in mind that the appropriate use of body language also depends on where you are and who you are interacting with. As we have talked about before you may find yourself interacting with someone from a very different culture and they may regard some gestures that you consider polite as rude and disrespectful. I sure hope that you have learned a lot from this crash course. While, we have only had enough time to cover the basics, I sincerely hope that it has peeked your interest in the art of reading body language and that you will continue your education. Thank you very much for joining me, "your name here" "your email address" "your URL here" --------------------------------------------------------------------- Use this as a template for even more lessons subject line: Hello "autoresponder code here", In the last lesson we talked about ...................... 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